We had a comment on an earlier post that I would love to discuss. I think it is a very important thing. Communication is very important in an open adoption, long distance or close. My adoption is close, but I just adjusted it to act more like a long distance--less visits, more updates. I thought it would be really awkward talking to my couple about this (what if they get offended, what if they forget about me, etc.) and my fears were immediately crushed when they we only concerned if they were doing enough for me. My advice is to just call them and have a frank discussion about what you want and need.

That's my advice, but what do you think? This is what she said::

I wish I better knew how to make a long distance open adoption work. I feel awkward calling up cuz I haven't seen them in 6 months. Most of the girls I know have adoptions where the couple lives close. How does long distance work?

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